Perfect First Date
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Table
Of Contents
Foreword
Chapter 1:
Prepare for Your First Date
Chapter
2:
Things
to do
Chapter
3:
What
to wear
Chapter
4:
Where
to Go
Chapter 5:
Conversations
Chapter
6:
First
Impression
Chapter
7:
After
Your First Date
Perfect
First Date
Discover strategies to make your first date a memorable one
Chapter 1:
Prepare for Your First Date
Synopsis
The following are some thoughts on the matter of preparing
for the first date that should be considered with some seriousness to ensure
the encounter goes as planned:
The Basics
Start by looking good and feeling good way before the date
actually takes place. If there is a heightened level of excitement, the fell
good aura will be evident but when it comes to the looking good element, some
changes may have to be made. These may include simple things that don’t really
incur costs, or if it does, these cost would be minimal and certainly worth the
investment. Doing some exercises, eating well and sleeping well will all help
to prepare the individual both mentally and physically.
Be prepared way in advance, and these would include all the
little things that may seem insignificant but could potentially put a damper on
the actual should they surface. These may included elements such as the
intended attire to be worn, the venue for the date, especially if it is
unfamiliar to the individual, and the contingency plans if the venue becomes
unsuitable for any given reason, the topics to be discussed to keep the date
pleasant and flowing smoothly, any additional needs that might have to be taken
care of such as pets and other dependants and almost anything that can cause
interruptions.
However in exploring all these possibilities, caution
should be exercised to ensure the individual does not get unnecessarily anxious
and go into panic more.
Chapter 2:
Things
to do
Synopsis
In the first date scenario, the individual has to do
virtually everything right, if there are intentions to secure a second date
with the other party. This is very important as first impressions are often the
deciding factor that will dictate the tone of the encounter and the second date
possibility.
The following are some points to consider for things to do
on the first date:
What To Do
The most basic yet often awkward element within the date
layout is the payment for the entire experience. Making the other party split
the bill is an accepted practice, but not one that is appreciated, especially
if the individual intents to portray a successful and capable position.
Therefore taking the trouble to gently and without any inflated ego issues it
should be established that the bill will covered and the other party’s
contributions would be to simply have a good time.
Picking the correct location would also be something to be
considered, as the ideal setting would be required based on the general
direction the date is designed to take. Finding a location that is suitable and
convenient for both parties will set the tone for the entire date. Unless money
is not an issue, picking a venue that would not cause the individual to be
mindful of the bill at the end of the date would be advised, as this can put a
real damper on the encounter.
Respecting the other party enough to ensure being on time is
not an issue would also be something else to consider. If the other party is
kept waiting is can be potentially very embarrassing and stressful. Therefore
planning the route, time, transportation and other connective elements should
be done way before the actual day of the date. This will be a good way to show
respect to the other party and display the personal standards of the
individual.
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Chapter 3:
What
to wear
Synopsis
Impressions made on a first date, are very telling of both
parties and the possible outcome of the date. Therefore it would be in the best
interest of both parties, to come well prepared both mentally and physically.
Presenting their A game would show that effort is being put into this
encounter.
The following are some tips on what would be considered
suitable attire for the first date:
Have A Look
Perhaps the first thing to consider would be the issue of
being comfortable. Mentally the date is already going to preoccupy the mind
before and during the actual date, therefore having to be distracted with the
attire for the date would not help put the individual at ease. Wearing
something comfortable yet complimenting should be the base of the idea behind
the ensemble put together. Other considerations would include the weather and
venue for the date. These also factor strongly in the choice of attire. There
is nothing worse than being either over dressed or under dressed.
Finding out a little about the plans for the date would
also help in deciding what to wear and this should be made clear to both
parties if possible, so that unwanted awkwardness will not be encountered with
the wrong choice of attire. If the date is not going to follow the conventional
meal and drinks, then the attire chosen for the date will have to be carefully
considered, this is especially so, if outdoor activities are planned as part of
the date. Suitable foot ware is something that is often overlooked and yet can
cause the most problems. Therefore attention to this is equally important as
the other parts of the ensemble.
Deciding between sexy and sedate can also be quite a challenge.
The individual would have to decide this based on the desired intentions for
the date. The intentions and end goals will dictate the choice between sexy and
sedately comfortable attire.
Chapter 4:
Where
to Go
Synopsis
This can be a fun activity or a stressful one, as choosing
a suitable venue is something that needs careful consideration from many
different angles. Giving it some careful consideration and planning will
contribute positively to the overall enjoyable experience.
The following are
some ideas on what to do and where to go for the first date endeavor:
Where
The actual venue would very much depend on the
personalities of both parties going on the date. If both parties are fun loving
and the adventurous types, then something outdoors would be welcomed and even
considered more comfortable and enjoyable.
Incorporating come light activities may also have some
level of appeal to both parties, but this would have to be agreed upon, before
the actual date, as there are often other connecting factors that would need to
be considered.
Picking somewhere neutral such as a café or coffee bar
would be advised, as this would be casual and pleasant setting that would give
both parties a chance to relax and get to know each other. It would also not
have the presence of alcohol that might cause over indulgence, if there were
nervous to be calmed.
Keeping the time frame for the first date short would also
be advisable as a longer period may cause the element of tiredness and boredom
to set in. Ideally the time frame should be dictated to by the general flow of
the date, and if it happens to run longer than anticipated, there should not be
any cause for concern if both parties are having a good time.
Finding interesting venues that are appealing to both
parties is important. Another fact to consider would be the distance and
convenience of these venues. This is especially important
is both parties have arranged to meet at the venue. Some ideal and popular
venues may include museums, bowling arenas, golfing, the zoo, planetarium, and
many more.
Chapter 5:
Conversations
Synopsis
First dates are usually quite stress full as both parties
are intent on making a good impression on the other.
If there is the added pressure of not know what to talk
about, then the date is probably headed for disaster. Therefore it is very
important to be armed with some good conversational topic and ready content to
get the date off on the right foot.
The following are some of the conversational starters that
should be considered if the individual wants the date to have some chance of
success:
Talking
Knowing about what is going on both within the community
both parties live in and around the country in general. This is often a great
conversation opener especially if both parties are intellectually inclined.
Other topic may be centered on the political and governmental issues and how it
affects the common such as the tow people on the date.
Other conversational starts may stem from the very attire
being worn or the accessories. Pick something complimenting to say about the
particular article can start the conversation going as more details are
divulged and tips are exchanged. Also it’s a good way to gauge the taste and
preferences of the other party.
Paying close attention to what the other party is saying
and contributing to the overall content of the conversation will help, alert
the mind to possible interesting questions to ask on the topic and also help to
introduce other topics that would be connected somehow to what is being
discussed. This will be a pleasant change for the other party to note that
whatever he or she is saying is being noted and taken seriously.
The most important thing to remember is to try to relax and
be confident and natural. All these traits are deemed admirable and thus
certainly get the attention of the other party.
Chapter 6:
First
Impression
Synopsis
Sad but true is the thought process that first impressions
usually set the tone for anything and everything. Therefore it is very
important to take the trouble to make the best first impression possible to
ensure the desired results of impressing the other party are achieved.
The following are just some of the recommendations that
should be considered when making the first impression is on the agenda for the
first date:
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The attire for the night should be at least smart casual.
Dressing comfortably yet neatly and attractively is very important as what
meets the eye is going to be what is judged. Being careful to not dress too
sexily would also be advised as the individual would not want to give out the
wrong signals or cause any unwanted advances to take place. Therefore choosing
the attire that makes the individual comfortable and attractive is the best way
to go.
The way the individual presents himself or herself is also
important. Posture and choice of sitting positions and the general body
language used are all sign that will let the other party be clued into the
character and demeanor of the individual. The presence of confidence, of lack
of it can be clearly deduced for the posture and the way the individual handles
things. Confidence and alertness are both attributes that should ideally be
displayed on the date.
Learning how to throw out a compliment or two without
sounding insincere is a very important style to learn and adopt. Being able to
compliment something about the other person will call attention to it in a
positive say and this will ensure the other party stays flattered and happy
because his or her efforts have been noted. People often respond well to compliments
and this can set the positive tone for the date.
Chapter 7:
After
Your First Date
Synopsis
In most cases the action taken after the first date, will
have some bearing on the eventual direction the relationship will take.
Although it is still commonly perceived to be the man’s prerogative to make the
first move after the initial date, most women today find it bothersome to wait,
especially if they had a good time and so make the move instead.
Following
The hesitation, if any
is mainly due to the fact that neither party wants to be rejected, thus the
hesitancy to initiate contact immediately. There are also a lot of doubts for
both parties if the period between the next contact is prolonged. However most
experts would advice a comfortable waiting period, as this will give both parties
the time to digest the events of the first date and the general characteristics
of each other. Rushing into a second date will not allow either party the
excitement and suspense that would ideally heighten the prospect of a second
encounter. However to be noted here, is that waiting too long to make contact
is also equally unnerving for both parties and this only increases further with
more time lapsed.
Most females enjoy
discussing the first date with their friends and try to analyze every detail of
the date. Advice is given on perceptions made and then the female will decide
if it would be worth the effort to agree to a second date should the
opportunity present itself. For the male however, the scenario is really quite
different, as most males will more likely be occupied with getting on with
their lives and work thus having little time to dissect the date and analyze
every detail of it, and should he decide to make the next move, making contact
will then be the point of contention for him. This next contact will be the
only element that occupies his thoughts and actions until contact is finally
made and the next date is agreed upon.
Wrapping Up
There is a lot of apprehension before an actual first date
takes place and most of these feelings are brought on by wrong choices made
following up to the date or perceived awkwardness and mistakes that might occur
during the date. All this can be avoided with a little careful research and
knowledge on things other may or may not have done that attributed to a
disastrous first date.
The following are some points to consider in order to avoid
having to go through a first date horror:
Spending too much time on the phone or online with the
intended date partner before the actual date, could be potentially disastrous
for the date.
This is because both parties may eventually end up being
all talked out and have nothing much to say at the date itself. This could also
mean that there would be no more new things to explore with the other party
that would make it finding out things about each other.
Building up the date in one’s mind into an over inflated
and unrealistic platform may take the excitement out of the date and replace it
with stress and anxiety. When there are too many expectations to live up to,
there is very little room to actually let loose
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and have pure unbridled fun. Allowing the actual date
scenario to dictate the course of the events can present its own sort of
excitement and surprise which if met with openness can unfold a good time.
Location is a very important factor to consider when it
comes to planning the first date. Being comfortable and being able to reach the
location with ease is a good way to start the date especially if both parties
have agreed to meet there, as opposed to being picked up by one party.
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